July 29, 2020: Due to COVID-19, our shipments are still extremely delayed. We are unable to process and mail many binders and femme shapewear garments at a time, which has increased our waiting times. Some international shipments are still suspended/not allowed.
You may make a request online, and we will continue to operate on a first-come, first-served basis, but we unfortunately cannot offer any estimates on when you will receive your garment.
Our volunteer team will be monitoring the situation closely to get our programs back in action as soon as we may safely do so. We thank you for your patience and understanding during this extraordinary time. Please continue to follow all guidelines for remaining safe and healthy.
About the program
Point of Pride provides free femme shapewear (specially-designed compression underwear/gaffs) to any trans femme person who needs one and cannot afford or safely obtain one.
We have donated hundreds of pairs of shapewear across the country and around the world to trans youth and adults in need of them.
We have only two requirements in order to keep our program as inclusive as possible.
- You identify as transgender (MTF, genderqueer, non-binary, genderfluid, gender non-conforming, and every other non-cis identity assigned male at birth within the trans umbrella)
- You cannot afford to purchase femme shapewear, or you cannot safely obtain femme shapewear
We ship internationally, and shipping is free. All requests are handled on a first-come, first-served basis.
Please read this page carefully, and only submit a request if you are truly in need of a garment.
Special Thanks to our Program Partner, Origami Customs!
Origami Customs provides ongoing support to Point of Pride by providing us with a generous discount to purchase their garments and redistribute them to folks in our community. If you are financially able, we recommend you check them out at www.origamicustoms.com
- Carefully read this page, especially our Frequently Asked Questions section, before continuing to our application form.
- Measure yourself using the guide on this page.
- Complete the application form. Once you submit, you’ll automatically be added to our waiting list.
- Hang tight. We should have your garment ready to mail within 6-8 weeks. Thank you for your patience.
- Once your shapewear is almost ready to be mailed out, we will email you to double check your information. At that time, you can confirm exactly how your name should appear on the mailing label, confirm your mailing address, and double check that your size has not changed. You may update your mailing info and size at that time, too.
- We mail out your package! You will receive two emails: one from us with the subject “Your Package Has Shipped!” and one from “[email protected]” with your tracking number. You can enter the tracking number at https://tools.usps.com/go/TrackConfirmAction_input and set up text or email alerts for your package. (Tracking numbers can take up to 24 hours to fully activate and the USPS site may list the package as “pre-shipment” until it activates.)
How to Measure
Before you request a pair, you’ll need to know your size!
Grab a measuring tape and place it around your hip where the waistband on the underwear will sit. For additional sizing and product details, view Origami Custom’s fit guide.
|Size||Hip Where Waistband Sits|
Frequently Asked Questions
What is femme shapewear?
These garments are specially-designed, feminine undergarments that are double-lined in the front for flattening. They are made of a semisheer mesh for breathability, support, and comfort. The stretch mesh holds the body tight, and is made so that you feel safe and secure with a smooth, no-seam silhouette.
If you choose to tuck, these garments make it safer and more comfortable.
We source these undergarments from Origami Customs, so they are designed by and for trans folks of all genders and any size or shape. Learn more about Origami Customs
Who qualifies for a pair?
Any person who is trans identified — MTF, genderqueer, non-binary, genderfluid, gender non-conforming, and every other non-cis identity within the trans umbrella assigned male at birth — and cannot afford or otherwise safely obtain a pair of shapewear is welcome to apply.
Do you have an age requirement?
Anyone of any age may submit a request. However, in order to comply with U.S. State and Federal regulations, if you are 13 years of age or younger, we can only accept your request with the consent of your parent or legal guardian. We apologize for any inconvenience and appreciate your understanding.
What will my shapewear look like?
We source Mesh Hipster Underwear from our friends at Origami Customs. The hipster cut provides modest back coverage. All garments are black in color.
How does the program work?
Our program operates on a first-come, first-served basis. After you have carefully read this page and measured yourself, you may apply by filling out our online application. Once submitted, you’ll automatically be added to our waiting list.
Once your garment is almost ready to be mailed out, we will email you to double check your information. At that time, you can confirm exactly how your name should appear on the mailing label, confirm your mailing address, and double check that your size has not changed. You may change your mailing info and size at that time, too.
Then you will receive two emails when your garment ships: one from us with the subject “Your Package Has Shipped!” and one from “[email protected]” with your tracking number. You can enter the tracking number at https://tools.usps.com/go/TrackConfirmAction_input and set up text or email alerts for your package. Tracking numbers can take up to 24 hours to fully activate and the USPS site may list the package as “pre-shipment” until it activates.
What does packaging look like?
Packaging for our mailed garments is extremely discrete. Your items will be shipped in a plain white mailing envelope.
The sender’s name is “Point of Pride.” Nothing with the words “LGBT” or “trans” appear on the packaging. The package is flexible and will fit inside of most PO Boxes. For street address deliveries, it is usually left inside the mailbox (or on the porch/inside the door in the rare event that the mailbox is too small). Signature is not required and a tracking number will be provided via email when your package ships.
If international, the customs form will list the contents as “underwear” and will have the item marked as a gift, but you’ll still want to check with your country’s customs office for how the customs process may affect you. Many of the provided tracking numbers stop working once the package leaves the US, so you may want to check with your local postal service to determine the best method for tracking your package once it’s left the US.
The package will contain your shapewear garment, an informational card on safer tucking techniques, 1-2 stickers, and a note of support meant to brighten your day (written by other trans people, volunteers, and community members.)
How do I know what size I need?
Before you make your request, you need to measure yourself using the guide on this page. Please keep in mind that these garments are sized and graded for compression purposes, so they are designed to fit snugly in order to compress and flatten. Do not intentionally go down in size; you will not be able to put your underwear on.
How do I wash / care for my garment?
Wash in cold water and hang to dry.
Is shipping free?
Yes! Shipping is 100% free and covered thanks to donations from our generous supporters.
Do you ship internationally?
Yes! We ship anywhere USPS will deliver.
Please note that shipping may take longer, sometimes up to 3 weeks, depending on your country’s customs. The customs form will list the contents as an “underwear” and will have the item marked as a gift, but you’ll still want to check with your country’s customs office for how the customs process may affect you. Many of the provided tracking numbers stop working once the package leaves the United States, so you may want to check with your local postal service to determine the best method for tracking your package.
How long will I have to wait to receive my shapewear?
We purposefully limit the number of applications we accept so that our waiting times for recipients are under 8 weeks. Once you have submitted an application, please estimate 6-8 weeks to receive your pair.
How will I know when my garment is ready?
Once your shapewear is almost ready to be mailed out, we will email you to double check your information. At that time, you can confirm exactly how your name should appear on the mailing label, confirm your mailing address, and double check that your size has not changed. You may update your mailing info and size at that time, too.
Can I have my shapewear shipped to a trusted friend or relative?
Yes. We can ship your garment to a friend, family member, or another trusted person if you cannot receive it at your house. You can complete the application with your friend’s mailing address, but put your information (such as your email address) for all other fields on the form. This is so we can communicate with you to double check your information and notify you when it is about to ship.
Can I accept shapewear on behalf of my friend?
Yes. We can ship your friend or loved one’s garment to you. Your friend can complete the application with their information but put your name and mailing address on the form. The most important thing is that the email address is your friend’s, so we can communicate with them to double check their information and notify them when it is about to ship.
My contact information or size has changed. How can I update my request?
We ask you please wait until our team reaches out to you via email to confirm your details. At that time, you may reply with your updated contact information or size.
If you need to update your email address, please email [email protected] using the email address that you originally signed up with. We will manually update your email address and use that to communicate with you moving forward.
I don’t need shapewear anymore. How can I cancel my request?
If you no longer need this garment, please email us at [email protected] and we will cancel your request and send your pair to the next person on our waiting list.
I have a medical condition. Is it safe for me to use a tucking garment?
We are not, nor do we claim to be, healthcare providers or medical experts in any capacity. We also recognize that there is appallingly little research done that recognizes our community and that for many of our applicants, there are significant barriers to accessing knowledgable and affirming care. As much as we empathize with the challenges faced by so many in our community, we are unable to make any recommendations whatsoever for individuals with pre-existing conditions, as that would be outside the scope of our ability to support. We simply do not have the resources to provide any recommendations specific to your unique situation and we firmly believe that your health is too important to entrust to someone who does not have the knowledge and experience required to support you.
If possible, we encourage applicants with medical conditions to work with their healthcare provider to determine if a tucking garment is an option for you.
We are a small volunteer-run non-profit with limited resources. We limit the number of applications we accept depending on how long our waiting list is, so that you are not waiting longer than 8 weeks to receive your pair.
If you try to apply for a pair but our application is currently closed, we recommend you bookmark our page and check back in 1-2 weeks. You may also submit your email address, and we will notify you via email when the application form is opened again.
We thank you for your patience and understanding.
Request a Pair
Before you apply…
This program is intended to help trans femme folks who otherwise can not afford these garments or obtain them safely. Please only apply if you are truly in need of support.
Click the button above to launch our application form in a new window
Information on Tucking Safely
Wearing this undergarment can help to reduce dysphoria and help you be more comfortable. The most important thing is that you do it safely.
This asterisk (*) is used to acknowledge the many different words that are used for this body part.
You can begin by tucking the testes.* The testes* will slip back up into the inguinal canals: use two or three fingers to guide them up to their corresponding canal. Don’t rush and listen to your body. If there’s any pain or discomfort at all – stop, take a short break, and try again.
Next, the penis* can be pulled back between your legs. Don’t force or pull hard. Everything can be held in place with these panties, and the fit should be snug but not overly uncomfortable.
Where we tuck tends to be a place where we sweat a lot. You want to keep skin cool and dry. Take a break when you’re alone or wear loose clothing when it’s not as important to be tucked. To avoid chafing or prevent a skin infection, always check for any open or irritated skin before and after tucking.
Tucking & Fertility
- Tucking may affect your fertility. For trans folks who may want to have biological children someday, it’s recommended you tuck sparingly or (if you’re able to afford it) consider banking sperm.