Write Affirming Letters to Trans Folks

A reminder that recipients are seen, supported, and valid is a powerful note to trans folks.

Would you or your community group like to support trans folks? You can create affirming handwritten notes for trans youth and adults, which Point of Pride includes along with donations of free chest binders and free trans femme shapewear.

What to Write

  • Consider sharing positive experiences around your own experience, especially if you are in a space that you never could have imagined when you were younger.
  • Let recipients know that they are valid and valued.
  • Speak from the heart and share what you would tell a friend or what you would want to hear yourself when you were going through a difficult time.
  • Each card can be unique or you can write the same card several times.

Example messages:

“You are already enough!”
“Be strong, be beautiful, be proud, be you!”
“I want you to know I see you and I support you. You are amazing just as you are!”
“You are so loved. Don’t ever forget that!”

Tips

  • The message must use encouraging and positive positioning. (Think “You’re awesome!” and not “You’re not a bad person.”)
  • Keep your message vague enough that the card won’t out anyone to unsupportive family/roommates.
  • Be careful not to infantilize the message or card.
  • Your message can be a quote, an original thought, or a combination of the two. Be creative if you feel so moved!
  • No identifying information (First name/home state is okay, if you choose to sign the card and add a bit of personalization).

Mailing Your Notes!

Once you're ready to mail your handwritten notes, please email us at [email protected] so we can instruct you on which PO Box to send them to.

Note: Many letter-writers also want to cover the cost to process and ship the binders and femme shapewear these cards accompany. If you/your group would like to donate, we recommend $3 per card. This is the average cost of postage within the United States, and you may enclose a check payable to Point of Pride or make a separate donation online. (We are a tax-deductible 501(c)(3) non-profit organization.) For questions, please contact us.

Thank you again for your support!

You are encouraged to be as creative as possible! You can write your messages on whatever paper you’d like (construction paper, note cards, folded greeting cards, etc.). Feel free to use markers, stickers, etc. but please do not include glitter or cards with lots of 3D embellishments, which can cause issues when mailing them.

Why Your Support Matters

Trans folks, particularly trans youth, all over the world face challenges simply by existing in systems that often don’t provide the support or protections for these folks to be able to not just live but thrive.

In fact, when looking at trans youth, the difference a supportive community makes is huge. Those receiving support from parents in particular are more than 2 times as likely to report life satisfaction, nearly 5 times as likely to have high self-esteem, 4.5 times more likely to describe their mental health as “Very good” or “Excellent,” and 0% faced housing issues. Conversely, those without support were 3 times more likely to suffer depression, 15 times more likely to attempt suicide and more than half of trans youth without supportive parents faced housing problems. (Source: transyouth.org)

Additionally, trans folks, particularly trans women of color, are at statistically higher risk of violence. The last several years have been the deadliest on record for trans folks, and that’s only including the deaths that are known. Tracking this violence is challenging because people may not be out or might be misgendered in obituaries.

Despite these challenges, trans folks have continued to make incredible contributions to society and become more visible every year. Thank you for taking the time to affirm and empower the next generation.